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IN THIS ISSUE:

"About Love and Conflict", insight on conflict resolution.

April 5th - Singles Dinner Event (in left column)

Win a $10,000 relationship package from Mapping Love and matchmaker Debra Winkler. April 8,9,10

April 12th - Dinner and a Book (in left column)

W O R K S H O P S for singles and couples

San Diego Magazine features Mapping Love, by award winning journalist and Spotlight San Diego producer Michael Bragg

Question sent to Annie & Stephanie~

Q ) I am dating a wonderful and charming man and I'm enjoying our dates, however he has a dog and since he lives on his boat he chooses to bring the dog in the car with him on our dates. The first 2 dates I met him, and last night when he picked me up the dog was in the car. Now you may think that this is not a big deal, however I am not a dog person, nor do I want any responsibility where an animal is concerned. I had dogs when my kids were little...that was a different time. He is already planning activities for us to do. How do I handle this? If it developed into a serious relationship I wouldn't want to put him in the position to choose.. I'd probably loose. -- H

A ) If you build a life with this man the dog will be a part of it. As part of dating, he has an opportunity to express how he will care for you with regard to the dog as with all other things. In order for this man to know what you need you  must find non-threatening, non-offensive way of telling him your needs regarding the dog, and all other things.  The purpose of courtship is to determine if you are able and willing to meet each other's needs and form a long term bond.
The question always comes back to, 'Which of the five stages of dating are you in?' You, H, are in stage 2: Uncertainty. Being uncertain does not mean it is time to stop dating him. It simply means that you not date him exclusively, or let him near your squishy parts, or fall in love until you have enough information.
How a person treats an animal is a good way to see how they'll treat other 'things' they care for. Never make it a question of 'choosing.' Put the responsibility on him to please you and care for you. He will pick up the ball, or he wont. If he doesn't, then you move on. Don't worry about him and how he'll react later if you've spent time together and then have to end it because of the dog. For now, the most important thing you said was, 'I'm enjoying our dates.' Keeping enjoying yourself.

In a scene from Willie Wonka & The Chocolate Factory we are presented with the unattractive image of a little girl demanding what she wants. Demanding, in fact, immediate satisfaction. We are uncomfortable with the image, particularly from a girl child because little girls are taught to "be desirable, not to desire" as we are told by Dr. Gray in his seminar on men, women and communication. more..

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